The Ladies Room

She blew in like a quiet storm; each step hurried but hesitant as if calculating her next. Her lanky frame seemed to droop like a weeping-willow as she shifted past. Suddenly she stopped dead in her tracks. Instinctively I turned toward her as she studied me over like a wounded, stray cat sensing a kind stranger. Our eyes met and I got a glimpse into hell. She was sophisticated but undone as the night's spirits danced on the tip of her tongue. Baby blue eyes set evenly faceted, deep and desperate; complimenting aging fair skin and conservative bleach blond hair. A white blouse and delicate necklace fashioned her neck. Holding handbag under elbow; long, bony fingers bent over the burlap. I sensed a lost soul and prepared to show my moral compass....I too have been down that dark alley. Unabashed the lady looked at me square. Her rich fiancé cheats - a narcissistic whore fat on pride…his version of love…a dish served cold. “…told me he will continue his affair...he’s probably with her now, she lamented...but loves me first and wants to marry me…should I…we’re engaged to be married?” I blinked and like a hush all to be heard was the rush of tap water from the nearby faucet; as a lone third party hunched over the sink, coyly washing her hands trying to mimic irrelevance [in contrast] though listening intently as I began to speak. I happened to see the lady after leaving the restaurant that night. I sat at the red light watching her ghostly figure cross the busy intersection. She was heading back to her hotel. 

Cliché.

A Heartfelft New Years

New Year's Eve is a day away and an eventful 2010 is coming to a close.  It is that proverbial time of reflection before and resolutions after -- a crystal ball falls from the night sky and slurring Au Lang Syne.  As the song goes, "Should ol' acquaintances be forgot and never brought to mind?" Not to be cynical but in the whimsical world of dating and relationships, realistically this sentiment will visit us more than once a year.  Perhaps your 2010 love life left you feeling blah~zay and emotionally drained or just downright disgusted and pissed.  Yep, we've ALL been there. 

So, raise a glass folks! LOL...

All is fair in love and war, right?  Apparently, because in any given season some rejoice to new love and wedding bells while others lament over a broken-hearts and busted wallets.  Sorry, this doesn't include Father-of-the-Bride.  Yet, for those of us who have found themselves at war with love I'd like to suggest a few things that helped me through the mean-time.  Heartache, anger, bitterness, self-doubt, are all natural responses to pain but still negative emotions that we should leave behind us so that we can begin to heal.  We've all been hurt and both men and women benefit from extra TLC and/or strong words that keep us grounded.  Again, a New Year is indicative to new beginnings so strengthening yourself mentally and psychologically is  the ONLY way to be sure you will remain resolute to your cause.  In the Meantime is an excellent and creative book of self-evaluation and healing for both women and men who seek to learn how to stop unproductive thoughts and behaviors that are robbing them of love; self-love most importantly. 

Now, without further ado, ladies...

The Confident Woman by Dr. Joyce Myers is another excellent book where the author speaks to women about owning her power as a woman from an evangelical standpoint. Now, Myers is never hum-drum nor does she throw the bible at you sort of speak.  The book is universal and eloquent as it engages women from all walks of life and faiths.  As far as strong words are concerned, it is next where things get secular but insightful (just the same). Like my Nana says, "Chew the hay...spit out the sticks." In other words, process any and all information but only take from it what you need! 

She's Gotta Big Ego...

So, now you got the Yin but you could go for a little Yang? Check out The Alexyss K Tylor Show  to rejuvenate your inner goddess!  Yes, I said goddess.  This femme-fatale, feminist is ALL about self-empowerment and celebrating your womanhood. So, if after listening in you haven't experienced a pick-me-up or ego boost... go back to step  one and repeat.  Now, be forewarned she's is shocking and vulgar but sharp as a tack, brutally honest and funny as Moms Mabley. If you can handle that, then her message will not get lost in translation.  No. Tone it down a notch? LOL. Okay.  Well, we all can appreciate sisterly advice and that's exactly what you'll find on The TonyaTKO Show.   Mizz Tonya is a Psychology and Communications graduate, and a self-proclaimed Love Guru -- whose like "the big sister you never had" who paints your nails and giggles with you about boys instead of locking you in the coat closet.  Unlike Mizz Alexyss, she does not use strong language but both are leave their listeners more knowledgeable and most of all encouraged!  Well, that's my wrap for 2010. Cheers, ladies and gents!  I wish everyone the best possible in all areas of life. Remember, keep your head up and love down in your heart and the rest will surely follow.  


Happy New Year!